Marlon Familton, MA LMHC
1601 116th Ave NE, Ste. 102
Bellevue, WA  98004
425-417-4700
Better Mental HealthManaging emotions is one of the keys to a happy life and good relationships.

Anger Management / Emotional Regulation

Anger is self defeating

I have clients who come in and explain how they go from zero to sixty.  One moment they are fine, the next they are in an angry rage.  They will talk about having a reason for being upset, often connected to feeling powerless when treated poorly, but are unaware of what happens that gets them to an emotional place that becomes highly reactionary, unmanageable and often self defeating.

If you are in a relationship and finding yourself becoming an angry or rageful person, know that irrespective of whether your true emotion of anger is justified or not, the damage that the reactionary anger causes can often lead to the demise of the relationship.  You have a right as a human being to feel emotions, however what you do with that angry emotion is your responsibility.

Working on Anger Management and Emotional Regulation issues means understanding not only the emotion in the moment and the underlying needs (often missed), but also connecting the dots from where the excess emotion is coming.

In working with Anger issues we have several tasks.  Certainly we will look at the stressors taking away from your ability to be tolerant, where the excess anger and emotional pain comes from, separate the primary emotions from the reactionary ones, work on healing past wounds and triggers, and help you find more effective ways to cope with the real emotions you have. However, we also have to rewire your brain and the way it is connected to your emotions.  This is how you will start to change how you respond to others and your environment.